“My Husband Uses ‘Aboniki’ To Have Sex With Me, It Was Torture” – Woman Tells Court As She Seeks Divorce

A 43-year-old woman, Omolara Acchoyame, recently dazed
her husband before the Igando Customary Court in Lagos State,
when she alleged that sex with her husband was torture.
Omolara, who had filed for divorce proceedings against her
husband, Solomon Acchoyame, alleged that he exhibited strange
behaviours while making love to her.
She alleged that he waited for her to sleep, then without waking
her up, just opens her clothes and had sex with her, adding that
she never enjoyed this.
Omolara further told the court that her husband had three things
which he used during sex for lubrication, listing them as aboniki
balm, mentholatum and dusting powder, adding that these
things made her hate having sex with him.
She testified that she met her husband 14 years ago and bore
him three children, adding that their major quarrel was based
on the fact that he didn’t know what he’s doing for a living.
“We fought most times before I left home because I don’t
know what he does for a living. He goes to his village three
times a week and I don’t know the reason for this since his
parents are dead and when he comes back, he would say he
does not have any money.
“ I would go to my sister to borrow money for him for his next
trip. Yet, he will come back and curse me and my family and he
doesn’t come home until midnight.
“My husband does nothing for a living. Please dissolve the
marriage so that I can start my life all over again,” she said.
In his defence, the 44 year-old husband stated that when he met
his wife at the University College Hospital (UCH) in Ibadan, Oyo
State, things were going on well for him and it was with his
money that he trained her in the university.
Solomon said that after a while, he started experiencing
financial difficulties and he couldn’t complete his education.
“I want to perform my obligations as a father and husband, but I
am handicapped,” he said.
The case was adjourned till September 25.